Once a very popular sexual practice, but in the early 1990s it experienced a significant decline. Now it is once again gaining great popularity. Yes, we’re talking about none other than the threesome we all know.
For those unfamiliar with this practice, it involves three people, and gender doesn’t matter. It used to appeal mainly to young people, but now it’s older people who are falling for it. The main reason is usually to spice up one’s sex life or simply boredom.
The question remains: in what situations should one try a threesome—only when single? Or with a partner and inviting a third person? This is also tempting, but in this case, be aware from the very beginning that the man will want another girl, and the girl will require another guy for a Russian threesome (yes, this variant exists too).
Sexual threesome – how does it affect a relationship?
The sexual relationship between two close people is very intimate, and it’s difficult to just let someone else into it. That person can cause a lot of trouble without meaning to, which can even lead to the breakdown of a previously excellent and healthy relationship.
Partners may lose trust in each other; they may also view this escapade as infidelity. The infidelity they witness is right before their eyes, and they know it has happened. Then it is difficult to come to terms with it, and if the partners do not agree on clear rules and boundaries, things will start to get tough.
The best scenario in these cases is when it’s just friends who want to spice up their free time. Nothing binds them, there are no relationships between them; they can do whatever they want without any obligations to a partner, and that way they can enjoy it much more.
Life experiences:
My friend’s boyfriend has been trying to convince her for two years now. She’d love to do it for him, but she knows she can’t, that their relationship would suffer. Plus, she isn’t bisexual, nor is she attracted to women in any way, which also always works in the whole thing’s favor. If women are oriented this way and can enjoy sex with a woman, it is then much more acceptable for them to involve their partner in these titillating games. Whether as a passive spectator or an active participant.
A friend of mine confided in me a while back that her boyfriend is constantly pressuring her into threesomes, but she’s not interested. She doesn’t feel like getting involved in something like that because she loves her boyfriend, is jealous, and has no intention of sharing him.
Threesomes: The Numbers Speak for Themselves
According to global surveys, most relationships that decided to try this practice fell apart after a very short time. It is a truly intense experience, and neither men nor women can often handle the fact that another person of their gender was involved in sex. They start blaming their partner for everything, and eventually it all ends up as a typical infidelity.
Over 33% of respondents have tried a threesome at least once in their lives.
Threesomes/Foursomes – No Longer a Secret
Sex with three or four people is the boundary between couple sex and group sex. In a threesome, the most common combination is one man with two women or one woman with two men. This combination is most common among heterosexual couples. Gay men are more likely to seek out a combination of three women or three men. A foursome typically involves two couples.
One man and two women – fantasies for inspiration
This combination is the secret dream of many men. Many of them admit in anonymous surveys that they long to make love in the presence of another woman. For many men, the idea that a woman invites her best friend to join them for sex is very exciting. A threesome can be approached in many ways. Many men are aroused by the sight of two women caressing and teasing each other. The women’s lovemaking is seen as a prelude to the sexual act with the man.
This way, the man has less work to do and more space to focus on himself. Both women are there solely for him, thinking only of his satisfaction. There is no jealousy or rivalry between the women; their shared goal is clear: to satisfy the man in every way possible. A major attraction of this sexual arrangement is the perfect care given to the man. While one woman caresses and tends to the upper half of his body, the other uses her mouth to attend to his manhood.
During the ensuing intercourse, the man makes love to one woman while the other ensures the comfort and arousal of both partners through gentle touches and loving care. The two women can freely switch roles depending on their current mood and their energy levels. In this dynamic, the man is treated like a pampered king.
To spice up the threesome and boost the man’s ego, a contest between the women for his favor is offered.
The women engage in a fierce battle. The reward for the winner will be sex with the man, while the loser will merely watch passively. If a garden or other suitable conditions are available, the women’s contest can take the form of a mud-wrestling match. This discipline, in which women in tiny swimsuits try to push each other into the mud, resulting in very close physical contact, is particularly popular with men.
After the match, the man can take the winning woman into the shower to thoroughly clean the mud off her and prepare her for further play. The defeated opponent can passively watch, be banished from the bedroom as punishment, or perhaps be humiliated into the role of a slave fulfilling all the wishes of the winning couple.
Women Against Men – Another Fantasy
Another possible scenario is when the women form an alliance and the man finds himself on the periphery of their interest. The women may make love to each other, letting the man watch, and only allow him to join in at a later stage. The man, aroused by the sight of the women making love, may also be left to his fate and suffer from the inability to participate in sex.
2 Dominas / Mistresses and 1 slave – fantasy
For individuals who practice BDSM, such a man is the ideal slave.
His two mistresses humiliate him, ignore him, and possibly even physically abuse him.
The slave experiences beatings and erotic torment. The women arouse the man, playing with his sensitive spots. When the man is aroused to the highest degree, the women lose interest in him. In this case, it is highly recommended to use various restraint devices such as handcuffs and straps. The aroused man has his hands and entire body restrained so that he cannot satisfy himself. He thus becomes fully dependent on his mistresses.
Two men and one woman—a dream fantasy
A woman with two men may find herself in two contrasting situations. In one case, the woman is assertive, dominant and emancipated. The men are there to satisfy her needs. The woman does not hesitate to ask for what pleases her and expects her demands to be met.
The men may have a close relationship with each other, but this is by no means a requirement or a rule. What is important for both men is the ability to cooperate.
In the opposite scenario, the woman is submissive and serves the men as a plaything, a tool for satisfying their sexual needs. A woman who practices BDSM becomes the perfect slave to two masters, who have complete control over her fate. In this case as well, the use of restraint and bondage devices is recommended; the female slave will also appreciate dildos and various other torture devices such as nipple clamps.
What about a foursome?
A foursome often involves two couples who have decided to try making love together. The logical outcome of these sexual games is partner swapping. The exciting element here is the presence of a new partner and watching your partner make love to a stranger.
Another version of a foursome is when a couple invites a male or female friend to join them for sex, though the friends do not know each other.
Here, the element of surprise also serves as a source of excitement. The partners are mutually surprised (pleasantly or taken aback) by their partner’s tastes. During sex, each partner then makes love to the guest, and their own partner has the opportunity to watch everything unfold live. A foursome is based on pure cooperation or, depending on the preferences of the participants, on dominance and submissiveness of one of the couples.
2 dominants and 2 playthings – fantasy / scenario
In the case of BDSM-oriented individuals, the dominant couple has the ideal conditions to let loose on the weaker couple. From various forms of restraint and spanking to a ban on sex and forcing them to watch the happiness of the dominant couple during sexual play. A foursome can, of course, be a combination of one man and three women, or one woman and three men.
While this variation is possible, it places very high demands on the partner who is in the sexual minority. Sex with three partners is something that only an exceptionally hardened and resilient man or woman can enjoy. In the case of homosexual couples, the arrangement tends to be same-sex. However, the division of roles can largely resemble the description for heterosexual couples.
Once you’ve decided to go for it…
When it comes to safety, it’s good to have everything under control and leave nothing to chance. STD tests—you probably won’t ask your partner for them, nor will they ask you, but it’s definitely a good idea to safeguard the situation as best as possible so that one wonderful evening doesn’t turn into a hundred mediocre evenings.
Especially if you’re inviting someone you don’t know into bed (for example, enthusiasts from erotic dating sites, forums, …), check them out as thoroughly as you can. Trust, but verify!
And if you’re into BDSM play and would like to surrender to a new addition in your bed (if it’s a dominant Mistress or Master), make sure that during the first few meetings you aren’t restrained in a way that could put you at risk.
A new level: how far can you go? = swingers
It’s not that far from a threesome to a swingers party (an experience straight from the event). However, it’s best to attend these with your partner and prepare yourself for such a lascivious experience, both mentally and physically.
Your opinions 3 opinions
No tak a co trojka se dvěma muži? To by pro přítelkyni jistě bylo zajímavější pro mě teda bylo, se ženou to taky nebylo špatné, ale chlap je chlap
Pokud pánům nevadí „šermování“ penisy, tak proč ne:) Slečna si ale užije situace, kdy se pánové chtějí překonat a pokusí se ji zničit intenzivním sexem O:) Vyzkoušeno a potvrzeno.
No to náš vztah se po trojce taky rozpadl, ale je tady jeden rozdíl, ja zil s klukem
Bohužel musím přitakat autorovi článku, protože zkoušet trojku současně s přítelkyní a jinou kamarádkou je opravdu pitomý nápad. Sice jsme si to všichni užili, ale co přišlo potom mi tu rozkoš a zábavu z prožité trojky pokazilo.
Jelikož trojka byl můj nápad (co byste čekali od chlapa), tak zanedlouho sem měl na talíři, že té holčině sem se věnoval více, že si to víc užíval a že jsem to stejně udělal jen abych mohl zpracovávat jinou slečnu. Tohle jsem měl každý den, tu švédskou trojku proti mě používala jako střelivo, takže zanedlouho se naše cesty rozešly. Ale mělo dobrou dohru. Dal jsem se dohromady s tou slečnou z naší trojky 😀