When I got pneumonia, they didn’t take me to the local hospital in Litoměřice, where I grew up, but to Roudnice nad Labem. I didn’t understand why—after all, I was only eight years old. I also didn’t understand why my roommate was a woman. I’ll probably never find out what kind of mix-up it was. But it had two silver linings. First, I recovered without any lasting effects, and second, I began to perceive the opposite sex more closely.
That female roommate would lie around or walk around the room naked—clad only in what’s called a “little angel.” And without a shred of shame! I could see everything as clear as day… Looking back now, I realize that the Roudnice area is much more progressive when it comes to “sex education.” On its outskirts, lesbians and gays organized social gatherings in the 1990s, and Madam Aradia, the longest-serving dominatrix in the Czech Republic, even has her own studio here. And we’ll be talking with her today.
What was your path to becoming a dominatrix?
The paradox is that I originally didn’t consider becoming a professional dominatrix at all. I studied psychology at the Faculty of Arts in Prague with the intention of pursuing couples and marriage therapy in the future. I was interested in BDSM because that’s my orientation. I wrote short stories and articles for various erotic magazines and was eventually invited to the first episode of Tabu on TV Nova, since it was a very controversial topic. At the time, I was teaching at a high school, and after Tabu aired, I had a termination of employment on my desk. I was unemployed for a while. Fortunately, or unfortunately (?), two Dutch businessmen watched Tabu, got in touch with me, and offered to build the first BDSM studio in the Czech Republic, in Prague, together. It operated for just under two years.
Interesting. Why only two years?
After that, we parted ways due to differences of opinion, and I returned to Roudnice nad Labem. I started organizing parties for BDSM-oriented people, who gradually convinced me to reopen, but this time my own studio. And that’s been going strong for 22 years now. At first, I was a little worried that if I left Prague, people wouldn’t come to see me. But the opposite turned out to be true. Clients appreciate the discretion. Today, I have a studio just outside Roudnice, far from the crowds, and clients come here from all over the world. However, I don’t just have submissive clients; I’ve also returned to what was my original intention—marital and couples therapy for pairs where one partner is BDSM “positive.”
When you opened the studio you mentioned, were there any difficulties with the authorities, the building owner, or the health department?
Not at all. The building originally housed a sex shop in one section and a porn theater in the other. The owners shut those down and built the studio in their place.
Is it true that you were involved in the creation of the first magazines dedicated to BDSM?
Well, who else? I practically wrote the first issues of SM Kontakt for OWK (Kingdom of Another World) all by myself. Back then, I also collaborated extensively with the Ostrava magazine Sex Pervers, writing short stories, expert articles, and intimate confessions from people with minority sexual orientations.
Your specialty is giving BDSM lessons, previously to individuals, but now mostly to couples. Why them specifically?
Because I think this is exactly what makes sense. I’m going to brag a little now, but I’m convinced I’ve saved a lot of marriages. Men with this orientation are usually afraid to admit it at home; they prefer to secretly visit dominatrixes. The wife then doesn’t understand why their sex life is lacking. She usually gets the impression that her husband no longer finds her attractive as a woman. I try to convince clients to come clean at home and come together for a consultation or therapy session. When I succeed in this, I’m halfway there. It’s interesting that men usually tell me: “My wife definitely isn’t into that!” But when I explain it properly to their partners, teach them to communicate their sexual desires to each other, then the men are surprised at what a wildcat they suddenly have at home. It’s all about communication.
Is it true that you’ve trained many followers, even abroad?
It’s true. Many of our dominatrixes started with me, either as apprentices or by coming to at least get advice on how to teach lessons, how to equip a studio, and so on. One Italian dominatrix and one Belgian woman
Where do you get your inspiration for BDSM? Your own imagination, short stories, porn, the internet…
I think that as a writer I have plenty of imagination. And when you add my clients’ imagination to that, there’s always something new to come up with and refine.
Do you have any experience with erotic events—swingers, festivals…?
I used to organize BDSM parties myself, and when I didn’t have time for that, I would go to parties in Prague or Brno. The parties at Madam Tessa’s in Belgium were also interesting; I went there a few times, and Madam Tessa, in turn, visited my events. I don’t seek out classic swingers’ parties or festivals. I prefer more private events.
Are there clients you’ve turned down because of their requests?
Of course. And quite a few! Those who demanded sex, or showed up under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Drugs and alcohol simply don’t belong in a BDSM session! At least not with me.
You offer many practices in your studio. Which one is the most popular among your clients?
Breath control play, sensory deprivation, rubber therapy, shibari kinbaku, and even clinical play.
Do you have a line you wouldn’t cross?
Dangerous practices that endanger a person’s health, or even their life. Just recently, someone contacted me saying they wanted to be buried alive for a week. Or sometimes someone asks for castration. Masturbatory fantasies are often boundless.
Do you have any unusual experiences with clients that left a positive or deep impression on your subconscious?
Every client leaves a certain mark on you. But my favorite are the sessions with the “arrogant lady”—a transvestite. We play this game. He’s a rich, arrogant lady whom her husband can no longer stand at home, so he sends her to me for re-education. The guy always puts on such beautiful makeup and clothes and plays his role so convincingly that he sweeps me along with him. I have a blast with him.
Sexual preferences change over time; is there a practice you discovered later on and started enjoying, or conversely, one you used to do and then stopped?
I wouldn’t say so. For me, it’s always a matter of my current mood. Sometimes I enjoy bondage more, other times clinical play. It’s more about keeping the sessions varied and ensuring there’s something new each time. That’s why I’m always buying new toys and outfits. I don’t like routine.
Do you shop at sex shops? Brick-and-mortar or online?
Occasionally. Mostly at online shops. But mostly abroad. Unfortunately, there’s still not much available here.
Do you follow trends and the latest models in erotic toys?
Of course.
Do you update your collection of toys? Do you come up with new equipment and continue to deepen your expertise in this area?
When you’ve had some slaves for, say, 10–15 years, you have to keep coming up with something new. My regular slaves are tasked with sending me interesting links whenever they discover something new and interesting, and I then consider it and usually purchase it for the studio.
What is the latest collection of tools you have available now? And what studio equipment did you change most recently, and why?
New professional electro. I’ve tried a whole range of modifications (from Rimba to ET312) and it still wasn’t quite right. Until I discovered one professional device, and I’m finally satisfied with it. Another new addition is VENUS2000 – a milking machine, combined with bondage in a latex cocoon. It’s a very interesting toy.
Do you make your own sex toys?
My husband made me a vacuum device for my nipples and genitals. Sometimes he sews latex outfits for me. I’m not that skilled.
Can you repair them?
I only repair latex items, such as a torn latex lounger, a latex cocoon, or a bodysuit. My husband can repair some devices, but I usually leave that to the experts.
Have you ever been in the opposite position—as a sub?
Yes. I basically started out as a sub in private when I was about seventeen. Probably because I had more experienced and older partners.
Experience with a girl?
My first sexual experience was with a friend. Sometimes I also have female submissive clients, but I wouldn’t say I’m into women. I see it more as a change.
Experience with a threesome?
Do you mean in sex? I have. It’s interesting too; you have to try everything.
Would sex in public turn you on?
Yes, it would. Unfortunately, my current husband isn’t really into that. I’ve tried it a few times before, too.
Do you have any fetishes? What turns you on?
Personally, I’m intofur and leather. My husband is into high heels. So we complement each other perfectly.
Do you have any tips for readers on how to spice up and make sex more enjoyable?
That’s individual. Some people like toys, others like costumes, or high-heeled shoes. In any case, couples should communicate more about what they’d enjoy, listen to each other, and not be shy about making it happen. No matter how wild it may be. Visiting a sex shop together isn’t anything to be ashamed of either. And the salespeople are happy to advise everyone.
Would you recommend an interesting place, a practice…
As I said, everyone likes something different. In my opinion, a change of scenery for sex is interesting for couples. Today you can rent a night at a castle, a shared sauna, a hot tub—anything. Or even a BDSM studio. Married sex gets bogged down by routine. Watch out for that!
How does your husband view your profession?
He’s a photographer, he manages the FETISH ART section on my website and takes photos of me for that section, so he views it positively. He knows that a BDSM session isn’t about sexual intercourse, so he has no reason to be jealous.
Do you and your husband have any favorite techniques?
We do. But that’s none of your business. My private life is our business alone.
Let me put it another way. What haven’t you tried with him yet?
Probably electrosense. He refused that.
What kind of lingerie do you like to wear most when having sex with him?
Lingerie? No way! Leather, latex, or vinyl and thigh-high boots. Lingerie is for romantics, and I’m definitely not one of those.
What would you wear to really turn him on?
Heeled boots and a leather corset.
And vice versa. What kind of underwear turns you on when he wears it?
Tight black spandex briefs.
Does BDSM blend into a traditional relationship? What do your family and friends think about it?
I never do anything halfway. So everyone knows about it. At first, there was a little problem with my parents, but when I had them read the books I wrote about BDSM, they understood that I wasn’t hanging out with any “anti-social types,” as they originally thought, but with intelligent people who have imagination.
What do you think of Dr. Plzák’s statement that sex accounts for 80% of a successful marriage?
The doctor is right. Sex resolves a lot of minor disagreements and conflicts in marriage. And if sex is satisfying for both partners, which is important, neither partner looks elsewhere. In fact, from my experience in my counseling practice, unfaithful partners usually seek elsewhere what they don’t get at home. Which is actually logical.
Madam Aradia really has a lot to talk about. If you want to learn the craft of a dominatrix or seek advice on relationship issues, you’ll definitely find the link to her website below—Aradia.cz—useful.
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Dobrý den,
Nechci říkat že se mi to nějak líbí, spíš zkusit se má všechno, a já bych rád zkusil mí svou paní.
A upřímně vy mě přijdete moc sympatická.
Co bych chtěl? Tak chtěl bych aby jste se pro mě prošla v lodičkach aby jste na mě dala kolicky a aby jste si na mě dala nohy jako na pejska a v ruce měla bič a u toho mě mlátila no a samozřejmě i výprask
Samozřejmě platím
Jaká je cena na hodinu a půl hodiny?
Děkuju
Hezký den,
s tímto dotazem se budete muset obrátit na Madam Aradiu.