If you are tempted by forbidden fruit or things that are taboo, anal sex is perfect for you. The practice is frowned upon by society at large and relegated to the “sexual periphery” where ass fucking is only done by gay men. The funny thing is that people condemn something they have never tried – in the Czech Republic I encounter this kind of hypocrisy quite often – a pity.

How a friend talked me into anal sex

First he had the task of completely releasing me. So playing with erotic toys (mainly Fun Factory) and then classic sex. He did loosen me up a lot with this, but as he started to work his fingers on my ass, I pulled back. So he went about it differently. He took the massage gel, and he started massaging my back. He worked his way from the top to my butt, and I was pretty relaxed.

To increase my relaxation, he took a vibrating bow tie and attached it to my crotch. The pleasant vibrations and relaxation didn’t take long to build up. So eventually he began to lightly finger circle around my “back entrance”, trying to penetrate. At first he circled one finger around and when he relaxed a little, the finger ended up in my ass.

Once he had one finger inside me, it was easier. All I had to do was massage the inside of my ass lightly and the sphincters gradually relaxed and the other fingers could join the first one. Excessive lubrication was of course necessary. Without lubricating gel (preferably special for the anus) it couldn’t.

Once he had four fingers inside me and I seemed relaxed enough, he began to slowly slide his fingers inside me while trying to penetrate me with his nagelated manhood. And lo and behold. He easily succeeded as I was relaxed and aroused.

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How did I experience ass penetration

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The anal sex itself didn’t do much for me personally. I didn’t feel the amazing sensations of traditional sex. But I did like the “journey” that led to the release of my body and butt. So that’s why I let my partner devote himself to my butt from time to time. He enjoys anal sex incredibly much. He doesn’t give me that much, but I enjoy his ministrations. We’re all different.

Let’s leave the unnecessary words and focus on the content of the title of the article – how to stretch your ass.

Before you even get started, you need to realize that the ss/anus is not at all adapted to penetration by penis or toys. The anus is literally resisting you with its muscles – it probably doesn’t want to. So you have to overcome this resistance (slowly!) and relax your buttocks.

The only way to relax the buttocks is when the rest of the body is relaxed. Many couples have burned out at this point because they couldn’t relax and the buttocks were tight and impenetrable. If your partner resents this practice, or doesn’t want to try it for whatever reason, then definitely don’t force her. Maybe she’ll “sign up” for these games herself someday.

But if you have a girlfriend at home who likes to experiment and anal sex is not yet in her tried-and-true practices, you’re halfway there.

It won’t work without preparation

What do you need to stretch your butt?

  1. A willing partner.
  2. Lots of lube (lots of it!).
  3. A few smaller gel dildos (of varying sizes).
  4. Or fingers (without rings, with fingernails clipped and filed, or wearing a glove).
  5. Adequate time and a quiet room.

The first 3 “elements” are pretty self-explanatory, but what about the fourth? You have to realize that a lady needs some calm to relax her body and her bottom. Don’t try to stretch her bottom in the woods in the winter, or at your house, where there is a risk that her parents will come in 15 minutes. Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed and you can concentrate on your play.

I recommend that you relax before you start preparing for anal intercourse. Full body massage, sex, masturbation – I leave that up to you. It’s pretty clear that a woman’s body is relaxed and supple after an orgasm, so there’s nothing stopping you from spreading your asshole.

1. We’re starting to release

So the partner should lie comfortably on her tummy, hands along her body and put a small pillow under her lap – the buttocks will then be more accessible. Apply vibrator (or anal bullets) to your finger, or a small dildo or vibrator (for anal sex I recommend silicone, which lasts longer and has better slipperiness).

Apply more gel around the hole as well. Then start to lightly circle your finger/dildo around the anal area to lightly spread the gel and mainly to relax the muscles a bit. Dildo used by us:

2. First the small dimension

Then slowly slip into the channel and come back out again – definitely don’t try to plumb some unknown depths the first time. On the contrary – the less the better. Slowly penetrate the buttocks and don’t rush – let your partner get used to the unusual pressure she is sure to feel in the buttocks (some may find it uncomfortable).

3. Bigger and bigger…

After a few minutes of slow and shallow penetration, you can move up to a higher caliber – a larger dildo, or two fingers. However, don’t try to be violent – see for yourself if your girlfriend’s bottom is ready for such a “visit”. So proceed really slowly and carefully – it must not hurt to penetrate.

Your girlfriend could get mentally “stuck” and you would be done with anal play for good. So keep spreading your bum slowly and carefully – don’t forget the extra lube. The buttocks do not have the natural ability to produce “slippery secretions” like the vagina, so you have to lubricate and lubricate. The dildo we use:

4. 3 fingers only

If your partner’s butt is already slightly relaxed, you can take it up a notch – a bigger dildo, or 3 fingers. Again, lots of lube and slow penetration (still shallow, or if you think the lady is already relaxed, deep). When penetrating, you can relax the girl slightly by stroking her body or fingering her – this will stop her focusing on her bottom and make it easier for you. Our dildo:

5. You’re already in

If you’ve gone through the previous 4 steps, your lady should be reasonably relaxed, as should her bottom. Again, apply enough lube, but this time don’t use your fingers or the dildo on her ass, but your penis. Place it lightly on the lubricated buttocks and push lightly – if you slipped in without any problems, you’ve won.

Now, however, don’t start thrusting enthusiastically and furiously all the way in, but again you have to slow and shallow – let the lady get used to you. After all, it is an unusual sensation to feel you in her bottom and not in her lap.

6. Don’t be afraid of depth

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When the lady and her butt have gotten used to your presence, try slowly going deep. If the girl doesn’t protest, you can continue to frolic at will. But remember, the buttocks are not designed for penetration and are vulnerable. So take your time and lubricate well.

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Hello, my girlfriend and I have regular anal sex. But after sex, she almost always has abdominal cramps. Sometimes they’re stronger, sometimes weaker. We used to use an anal douche which we don’t use anymore. Is there any advice?

Have a nice day,

cramps and pain are never quite right – especially if it’s recurrent pain like this. I don’t know how much (in terms of intensity and duration) the cramps are bothering your partner, but if I were her, I would see a doctor and consult with him.

more and more I want to try to squirt it in her ass.She has a sexy ass,I would really like to try it,maybe it’s not the right thing to do,but you have to try everything.Unfortunately my sweetheart is a virgin and she doesn’t want anal or oral. I don’t have a lot of experience either,but I want to try everything.How do I get her to adjust her ass?Or at least take my pussy and lick and lick until she has a mouth full of my cum.I’m probably a dick,but you should try everything.

Be sure not to push her and go through the pain – she has to come to this on her own. Gradually get her ready and relaxed, and it’s possible that she’ll want to do it herself later.

Ideally, during (for example) a back massage, start massaging her lower down on her bum, gliding over the curves of her bum, gently pressing, spreading and occasionally going down the hole itself. You’ll see how she’ll wince slightly, but it will feel good. You don’t even have to try for penetration, just tease and provoke her like this.

The more often you massage her like this, the more she’ll feel closer to it and won’t be so embarrassed.

With oral it’s going to be pretty similar – you have to get there gradually – in this case probably from massaging her. Definitely don’t force her to do anything, or she’ll get stuck and you’ll be out of luck for a long time…

Hello,

a few weeks ago, you gave us some advice about anal sex. Now I want to ask, since it all went fine. So after sex, there was a cramp in the abdomen, is that due to the air that got in during intercourse?

Thank you

Have a nice day,

unless there’s a lot of pain, I wouldn’t pay attention to it – it’s probably air from the individual ducts – it’s quite common for it to get pushed into the bowel and then push.

My friend and I tried anal for the first time and she relaxed so much that it went in like clockwork, even though it hurt for a while and then she enjoyed it and wanted to do it regularly and sometimes even without preparation, she just applied the gel and swung. Now we don’t give so much anal, but when we feel like it we stretch the hole with anal colic, but we don’t use gel but baby oil when it’s lubricated and it goes smoothly and stays for a long time, then sometimes after the contact I oil her hole properly and it slides beautifully.

Have a wonderful time 🙂 thank you for your experience! And keep enjoying!

Hello, I would like to enjoy male anal, but my girlfriend is not so much in favour of it, how should I convince her and use some kind of aid. Thank you for your answer.

Have a nice day,

it’s worked well for me to start in reverse – show her that anal teasing is pleasurable – for her. Gently circle, stimulate with maybe a finger in a condom, with a little gel… while you lick her shell or finger her with your other hand. That would be to keep her from relaxing and enjoying it. Repeat this more often and then ask her again to give you the pleasure back = she’ll already know it’s pleasurable, so if you’ve given her something new, why shouldn’t she reciprocate? 😉

For starters, try some smaller dildo – ideally softer, but if you start with a firmer glass one with a gradually expanding diameter, you won’t go wrong either. The highlight is probably the strap-on strapon, where your partner makes you a “bitch” and for once she’s the one coming and you just hold on. In our (deeply over-the-top) experience, the great strapons from Fun Factory are great – they tease both you and your partner with vibrations and pressure as they thrust into you = so she usually enjoys it more than you do = but it’s easier to talk her into it if she’s getting something out of it too.

my partner and I are trying to have anal sex, everything would be fine she relaxes, accommodates more and more, but suddenly on about the third finger and after taking water lube, a lot of lube according to us, the anus starts to burn, and it gets worse when we add more gel. What could be causing this?
Change of lube? Or do you prefer not to have this sex anymore? It’s a shame, because it makes her feel good when it doesn’t burn.
Thank you

Have a nice day,

I would definitely recommend changing lube – it may not be the best for anal play, plus for those special gels are best, possibly silicone based gels – they glide so well they make anal exploration many times easier 🙂 Try Exxtreme Glide, or PJUR Woman Bodyglide from http://www.lascivni.cz/lubrikacni-silikonove-gely/.

Anal reamer advise? Yes, and a handy hand to go with it.

Hello, I want to ask, how is it possible that with a proper anal shower I still sleep?? And I use it 2 times a day and I still sleep ..thank you for the answer

Have a nice day,

if you use enough water according to the shower instructions, you shouldn’t get dirty, but the amount of water can be individual for each person – in general it can be prevented by a diet rich in fibre, then there is no need to use the shower so much.

Good evening, I have a bigger problem when it comes to anal sex :/
My boyfriend wants to try anal sex,we tried a couple of times but I find it unnatural,weird and it hurts a lot even though we’re on our toes so far.

By the very logic of the thing – if you find it unnatural and strange, you will never relax and enjoy it (yes it can be pleasant and pleasurable). You will always be locked in and not get further, rather you will get even more locked in…

If you want to please him, try to relax, stop thinking about it, combine it with intense foreplay, relaxation, clitoral teasing, massage… Everything goes better with a relaxed body – we have the easiest way to do it in this guide above. But if you don’t want to go for it, no wonder. You don’t have to fulfill your partner’s every wish – often a common one from unrealistic pornography.

Hello

I tried anal sex with my girlfriend following your instructions…. It was great, so I would like to ask you if you could write me a navot on how to do anal/vaginal fisting….

Thank you for your reply Eva

Have a nice day,

Thank you for the compliments and the idea for a new article – we have so far focused on the vaginal variant of fisting:

https://www.lascero.com/sex/fisting-jak-na-nej/
https://www.lascero.com/sex/fisting-kdyz-se-prstiky-dostanou-kam-maji/

A lot of the advice can be applied to the anal version – it’s not that different, you just need to be multiply careful and lubricate more and rush less (really less).

hello, I’m a fan of male anal and I’m having a good time……just advise me on the ideal length of the anal plug..the depth of the anal plug will probably be individual,but I buy a carrot, about five cm in diameter and I sit on it,,,,,but I don’t know how to shorten it to make it just right…

Have a nice day,

unfortunately it’s exactly as you say – it’s very individual – for example, a carrot is not the most suitable because it’s straight and rigid – look up a picture of the shape of the anus somewhere on the internet and you’ll see that you need something either slightly curved or flexible that will adapt – a silicone/gel toy does this perfectly.

However, 5 cm is a lot, so you’ll need to go up to larger sizes – usually L or XL (even XXL with some manufacturers). This will solve the problem that you can’t trim the carrot to fit exactly = it doesn’t have the right shape for it.

Good day What materials would you recommend me if possible seradili gradually from the best to the worst material I want it for masturbation anal thank you

Have a nice day,

for your needs, they’ll be the best (after the worst):

medical grade silicone (softer, easier to clean, easier to boil, more expensive),
ABS plastic (perfect to clean, safe, hypoallergenic, but hard),
ceramic (strong, slides on its own, easy to clean, but hard),
glass (solid, slides on its own, easy to clean – hard),
latex (inflatable, porous, harder to clean),
gel / jelly (worst – degrades, hard to clean, has pores…)

I preferred not to include softened PVC because, like gel, it is not a safe material, degrades over time, changes properties (colour, smell, shape and strength) + it is not guaranteed to be free of phthalates (plasticizers). So I would avoid that and gel as much as possible.

Hope you make the right choice 🙂 Some tips: https://www.lascero.com/analni-vibratory/

What would you recommend for a teaser for myself? And from anal teasers?

Of the purely men’s toys (we’ve selected the top 5 here: https://www.lascero.com/eroticke-hracky-pomucky/eroticke-pomucky-pro-muze/) I like the Flight the best – it’s a classic artificial vagina made from a nice material, but this one is easier to hold compared to the larger Fleshlights and doesn’t have a realistic looking opening/entry – which for me is a plus.

Of the anal ones (like the pins https://www.lascero.com/tag/analni-koliky/ ) an inflatable pin with vibration. We have a different type now (review won’t go out until January), but it is very similar in design to the one we reviewed here: https://www.lascero.com/eroticke-hracky-pomucky/test-nafukovaciho-analniho-koliku/ and has served us great for a couple of years.

Hi:-) We would like to do anal with a friend…I want to ask about the cleansing?How should we do it and with what?Thank you for the answer

Hi, for cleansing before anal, an enema is best, or eating a diet rich in indigestible fiber as a preventative measure – then you don’t need much internal cleansing 🙂

I have a question he wants me to do for him when it comes to anal…. I’m a little worried about it… I don’t know if I’m ready to oblige him on this. I don’t know if it’s gonna be a problem. We’re inexperienced at this.

It’s to be expected because he knows how pleasurable it can be for a partner – you don’t have to worry again. Just maintain hygiene, gel, help yourself with a smaller penetration toy and as with you – don’t cum, or release it by irritating the penis/varlats.

If you don’t feel like doing it, of course no one will force you – inexperience is not a barrier, anything can be learned – it’s all about fulfilling each other’s sexual desires and dreams – not just your partner’s.

Vezměme to popořadě. Musíte dbát větší pozornosti kvůli hygieně (anál není nejčistší místo na světě), plus i riziku poranění při větším roztahování.
Ano – určitě klasický sex je bezpečnější – ale u obou vzniká riziko přenosu pohlavních nemocí – musíte se chránit tak i tak.

Ano kondom je nejlepší jako bariérová metoda. Ale má taky úspěšnost “jen” 99,9% – záleží na použití. U kondomů bývají velké rozdíly v kvalitě – co si zaplatíte, to dostanete. U levnějších typů za pár kč může být vyšší riziko protržení, tedy i vyšší riziko nechtěného otěhotnění partnerky. Více o nich jsme připravili zde: https://www.lascero.com/vztahy/jak-nasadit-kondom-navod/.

Nejlepší zkušenosti máme s Durexem, případně Primerosem 🙂 Nejlepší/nejspolehlivější bývají “zesílené” – třeba u Durexu jsou to Extra Safe kondomy.

Je bezpečný anál? Nebo je bezpečnější sex do vagíny? Nejlepší ochrana pánského přirození je kondom ? Jaký druh je nejlepší aby vydržel neprotrhnul se a byl 100 procentne účinný při sexu? Jakou značku kupovat?

A co před análním sexem.Je nutno klistýr nebo něco na ten způsob?

Je určitě lepší si vyčistit zadeček právě klystýrem, ale nutností to není. Ale pro mnohé páry to zjednoduší a zpříjemní samotné anální hrátky, když budou naprosto “čisté a hygienické”.

ahoj zdravim analek ja oparvdu miluji je pravda ze se musi dat hodne gelu a prsticek zasunovat jemne a opatrne a pak muzeme pristoupit na zasunovani penisy umeleho ci ziveho zivy je lepsi to je jasne ale az se to poradne rostahne a vse se dela s jemnosti a lechkosti tak je to pro oba vylozena slast a raj vsem co to neskusily doporucuji mej te se fajn a hura do toho

já mám anální sex rád sem bi měl sem přítele někdy spím s muži nebo si dělám análek sám doma nejvíc semi líbí prstování zadečku už od mala mě to lákalo je hezké když ho mám v zadečku ale partner musí být jemný citliví a musí to dělat pomalu pomaloučku jinak když si dělám análek doma sám použiju prsty nebo něco ve tvaru penisu co si krásně zasunu dovnitř a pak vytáhnu

Na análek se musí opravdu pomalu a spíš nenápadně. Přítel se mě neptal, jen se při milování začal zkusmo dotýkat oblasti kolem zadečku, pak blíž a blíž k análku, pak začal zlehýnka hladit análek. Dlouho nepostupoval dál, nechal mě přivyknout na nový pocit, že se mě někdo dotýká na “zakázaném” místě. Takové dotyky trvaly přes několik milování, nebyla to záležitost na jeden večer. Dával mi všemožně najevo, že můj zadeček, potažmo análek, je pro něj úžasně erotická záležitost. Dosáhl toho, že jsem začala být zvědavá, co bude dál, jaké další pocity se dají zažít. Nechala jsem ho mě příště hladit déle, udělala jsem pár vstřícných pohybů, zkusil jeden prst, za hodně dlouho druhý.
Teď si užíváme anální sex, kdykoliv je to možné. Jen mě mrzí jedno – nechce používat lubrikant, prý vystačí bohatě s mou “šťávičkou”.
Koneckonců ani ráj nebyl bez chyby, byl v něm had 😉

Ahoj vážení,
anální sex a ženská prdelka, to je to, co mne maximálně vzrušuje, rád si s ní hraji, laskám, olizuji, také do ní strkám svoje prsty a když vypozoruji, že to paní dělá dobře, tak už pak nejsme daleko od toho, abych do prdelky mohl vniknout i s tím mým malým. Zásada je, nikdy do toho ženu nenutit!!!
Taktéž obráceně, moc mě rajcuje, když mě žena projíždí análek svými prstíčky, málo žen však ví a to jsem už některé poučil, kam mají prstíček nasměrovat, no přece na prostatu, neboli žlázu předstojnou.
S pozdravem Zdenda v letech, který si rád ještě občas užije.
PS. Na tuhle stránku jsem narazil čistě náhodou a možná sem občas ještě mrknu.

Velmi rad si to uzivam s priatelkou do zadocku, ale tiez to bolo tazke, ale pomaly sme to prekonali a teraz uz staci len velke mnozstvo lubrikantu a ide to uplne uzasne, nemusim to kazdy den, ale tak raz za dva tyzdne si to velmi rad dam….

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