You’d think there was nothing to it. Using larger sized dildos is no problem, nor are any other larger toys. But then it’s the turn of the hand or the fist and it’s all screwed up. How do you deal with that?

What is it like to enjoy lap fisting?

Often mistakenly lumped into BDSM practices because of the name alone. The technique itself is very gentle and very intimate. After all, it already takes trust and a partner who knows each other’s body. It is a practice where the whole fist is inserted into the body – either into the vagina or into the anus. Commonly, fisting is performed up to the wrist (small fisting), with experienced individuals performing hand insertions up to the elbow (deep fisting).

Of course, with experience, it is also possible to perform the so-called double fisting, where one hand is inserted into the vagina and the other into the anal.

Fisting instructions in a demonstration video (over 13 minutes)

Further VIDEO tutorial (12 minutes)

Fisting is anal too

For this practice, I highly recommend latex gloves. Of course, this is not a requirement, but a great recommendation. It’s definitely important to give yourself a manicure as well. You don’t want to hurt your partner. And definitely take lots of lubricating gel for fisting.

As far as gel goes, you can also get special lube gels (here we recommend ones that lightly numb the area) specifically for fisting. They are much more slippery and, more importantly, they tend to contain extracts of substances with a relaxing effect. This practice is very much about trust. Therefore, as with sadomasochistic play or anal sex, the partner must be careful. It’s a good idea to set boundaries and agree on warning signs.

Just slowly, play with your partner’s body. Count on the fact that it’s not a matter of minutes, but easily a matter of an hour or two. Start with one finger and then slowly add one finger at a time. Nothing must be uncomfortably painful.

Some advice from my private practice:

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  1. When you have all your fingers in your partner or spouse but can’t get past the knuckles, increase lubrication and slow down the pace.
  2. Don’t twist your hand, it can and usually is painful. Gently loosen and slowly work your way forward and back. But don’t force yourself anywhere.
  3. Try to make the hand as small as possible and try to press downwards and tuck it under the pubic bone.
  4. If you manage to slip it in, clench your hand into a fist with your thumb tucked into your palm.
  5. Never force your hand!
  6. If anything starts to hurt, don’t try to pull your hand out by force. Rather, release it completely and let your partner push it out.
  7. I recommend the same method of naturally slipping out even after orgasm. It is the most pleasant and least violent way to remove the hand.
  8. If you choose this practice, it’s good to be clear about one thing: “Why are you doing this?” The thing is, you won’t be able to get your whole wrist in at first. And yet, inserting one finger at a time (working your way in) is extremely pleasurable. It’s not necessary to get in right away. You can play with the insertion process 😉
  9. Just by trying to get your hand in, you can experience many, many wonderful orgasms without getting your whole fist in.

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I love fisting. I’ve been doing it for 20 years, I stretch the hole to 15 cm and my girlfriend slides her hand in up to my shoulder. She can do it.
In return, I fist her vagina so she can fit a liter bottle inside.

Hi, this is obviously already an extreme fisting situation for both parties – with the hand, we’d be sure it’s directly life-threatening, and the liter bottle probably is too – either because of the material (glass) or the vacuum, which is also extremely dangerous. So we would recommend rather avoiding such behaviour, even though it may be on the level of fantasy, for example.

good day I put my partner’s hand almost at the knuckle but I can feel the wall right away and I don’t know if I can continue or if I can put my whole hand in there after the wrist thank you

Have a nice day,

it’s hard to give advice from a distance, but I think you’ve got the wrong angle. Try looking at some photos/pictures of a woman’s wedgie in section – there you will see the angle it has in it – it is partially bent.

Mainly fisting is not always possible – it depends on the size of your partner’s vagina, the width of her pelvis, her relaxation and logically the size of your hand. So not for all combinations of partners can it be done.

Hello, my boyfriend and I have been planning to do this practice for a long time but we are worried that the vagina will be more stretched and big afterwards, is this true?

Hello,

It’s not true… the pelvic floor muscle is quite elastic, so it can return to its original state. If you did fisting really often, it is possible that the muscle would loosen up a bit, but this can then be corrected with exercise (for example Kegel exercises are ideal for this).

Hello, I would like to ask if I try anal fisting and I put barely 4 fingers in there and I feel all around the bone and I can’t put my palm in my anus can it be affected by age (18 years)?

Hello, it may be influenced more by your physiognomy – you have bigger hands or smaller pelvis, so it may not go together – not everyone is, let’s say, “physically” ready for such extreme practices.

Generally women have larger pelvises (due to pregnancy and childbirth), so of course it can also make a difference

Advice on anal fisting ? Thanks

Preparation… one must not be afraid of anal and clean oneself well, of course lubricate (crisco+j-lube – I have the best experience with this combination) and otherwise the options come with time.

In the beginning two hands were definitely not an option, only after some time did everything adjust. You can’t expect it to fit into a person right away. Poppers also help a lot, but I use that more for orgasm, but who can’t relax, it definitely helps for stretching.

Otherwise I’m a man and my girlfriend does it to me and the feeling is hard to describe, but I would probably compare it to what women experience in porn when they have an “extreme orgasm”, sometimes I’m out for a minute. I don’t really need to envy women’s orgasms anymore, I have these.

Thank you for the addition. Poppers is pretty much over the edge for us (both legislatively and health-wise), but we can’t control it – it’s up to each person how far they want to go.

In addition to the “wait for your own offspring” point, I would recommend the guide to anal “fistfucking” above = this very article. But any advice is good here, as the practice is not widespread enough for us to find an experienced editor who can pass on his experience “in natura”.

It’s more about my hand going after the wrist but I’d like to penetrate deeper… I also read about inflating with air ?…

It’s a question of whether you are anatomically built for that depth – generally, deeper penetration is a problem because of the shape of the intestine and its direction inside the abdomen. Unfortunately, I cannot advise you here.

This already sounds rather extreme, if I omit inflatable pins like: https://www.lascero.com/eroticke-hracky-pomucky/nafukovaci-analni-kolik-od-fetish-fantasy-test/

Hello , my girlfriend has been anal fisting me for almost a year now , it’s amazing and it turns me crazy , I orgasm without touching my penis , we do it up to the elbow and sometimes she even manages to stick her hand in with her elbow , I love it madly

Hats off to you, that’s already a pretty extreme stretch – just don’t let it affect you long term.

S partnerkou se fistingu venujeme jiz rok. Zpocatku se musi opravdu pomalu a hodne mazat, ale v nasem pripade to netrvalo tak dlouho. Nyni uz po kvalitni oralni priprave jde ruka dovnitr sama uz bez pouziti gelu. Musi dojit k velkemu vzruseni a zvlhceni. Ale stoji to za to. Partnerka to silene miluje a privadi ji to k neskutecnym nekolikanasobnym orgasmum. Tuto praktiku milujeme oba. Je to uzasne citit ruku uvnitr….

Hezký den,
děkujeme za vaše zkušenosti 🙂

Zdravím, s lubrikantem nešetřím, našel jsem tři kolíky – růžový kolík s přísavkou anal go medium, analni kolik saphir a Mr. BIG kolík černý. je možné využít takovouhle sestavu časem, a případně se dostat k fistingu? s partnerkou bycho to rádi zkusili oba, je nám jasné že to nebude hned ale třeba za rok či déle.

A ještě jsem se chtěl zeptat na přísavku na kolíku, jde mi o to v jakých situacích se dá využít.

Zdravím, ano je to možné – postupně a v klidu. Nejít přes bolest, zbytečně nezrychlovat a po pár týdnech / měsících to můžete zvládnout.

Sprcha, kuchyňská linka, zrcadlo 🙂 prostě tam, kde je volný prostor a hladký povrch.

dobrý den…..máte nějaké informace o fisting lubrikačním gelu?

Hezký den, pro fisting jsme ještě nezkoušeli žádný “extra” gel, jen klasické – osvědčil se nám vyložene silikonový, který má neporovnatelně lepší kluznost, než klasické gely na vodní bázi – třeba tyto lascivni/silikonovy-lubrikacni-gel/. Konkrétně Pjur, Glide4You a Durex silikonové…

zdravím a děkuji za reakci. no prave, ze co jsem videl spousty videi, tak mozne to je … samozrejme, nedokaze to asi každý, ale i presto nas to s partnerkou hodne vzrusuje a laka 🙂

Yeah well, I got interested in this topic too thanks to the videos, especially the blonde beauty Siswet ( https://slackholes.com/actor/siswet/ ) who has perfected this practice.

My partner and I tried it but it didn’t work so we’ll keep trying. Thanks for the interesting article.

Have a nice day,

thank you for the tip 🙂

ahoj všem. chtěl bych poprosit o radu od nekoho zkusenejsiho co se tyce análního fistingu. trochu uz “trénuju”, ruku po chvili hrani do analu dostanu. ale chtěl bych zajit trochu dal, proto se chci zeptat, zda někdo poradi, jak dosáhnout toho, abych pronikl i do vetsi hloubky? za pouziti vibratoru se dostanu tak cca 25 cm, ale dal uz to jakoby nejde, citim takovy bolestivy tlak. Je realne natrénovat střevo tak, abych tam dostal dejme tomu 40 – 50 cm? diky vsem za odpověď 🙂 ..

Zdravím,

nejsem si jist, jestli je lidské tělo vůbec uzpůsobené takovémuto dráždění – tím myslím vám zmíněnou hloubku, protože střevo se v těle kroutí (však se stačí podívat na jakoukoliv knihu či grafiku o lidské anatomii.

I have been practicing fisting with my partner for over 20 years. I think we have achieved our goal. She fists my ass, I fist her vagina. She slides her whole hand up to my shoulder. She just knows how to do it. I’m doing her vagina, more like wide, putting both hands in. She loves it, I love it. But it’s true that we can’t practice traditional intercourse because in an open vagina my penis has nothing to rub against, but we don’t mind because I stimulate her vagina with my hands.

Well, that’s really an extreme stretch, what can we tell you! Anyway, thank you for broadening our sexual horizons. The important thing is that you’re enjoying your time together.

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