Burning, stinging, pain, torture, but also warm touches, massage, and tenderness. All of this comes together in games dominated by wax. The flame of a candle has always been associated with the act of love. But wax can certainly be associated with bedroom games as well.
Sexual play with wax—why, exactly?
It’s entirely up to each person what they choose. There are truly many possibilities, and imagination knows no bounds. If you like to explore what heat or cold does to your body, and if you enjoy experimenting, I definitely recommend this practice.
Be clear about what you expect from the play. Whether it should be painful or gentle. Whether you want to torture or caress. Whether you want wax as a form of foreplay or as an aid during play. Then all you have to do is choose the right candle.
Safe Erotic Candles
There are many types designed specifically for bedroom play. Their “melting” temperature is low, so burns cannot occur. Some even melt at body temperature. And currently there are also massage candles that, when melted, become massage oil that gently warms the entire body (see our review of massage candles from Fun Factory).
A more advanced candle for D/s = BDSM play
Or, conversely, there are candles designed specifically for sadomasochistic play.
The temperature of the melted wax is high, and upon contact with the skin, small blisters form on the body. This is precisely what can be used for various torture/torment of a submissive who has consented to it. It can be used to torment nipples, the groin (both the vagina and penis are extremely sensitive to temperature), the buttocks, legs, or other erogenous zones. This is no longer play for beginners, but for those who understand each other very well and trust one another. And they may even have established limits of pain or punishment that they do not cross.
There’s simply a lot to choose from, but even classic tea candles have their charm. You just need to let your imagination run wild a little. These erotic candles are sold by brands such as LELO, Mystim, and Fun Factory, among others.
VIDEO: What an erotic wax play session looks like in real life (+ 1 minute)
How to enjoy wax play even more
Your partner will begin to slowly drip hot wax onto your body. Each drop that lands will sting gently and then begin to cool.
The wax slowly forms a hard crust that gently tugs at the skin trapped beneath it. On the breasts, it tingles softly and creates the sensation of nipple clamps.
The wax used for foreplay becomes a toy during the act itself. You are punished or rewarded with it. It is used in place of a whip. And the now-hardened wax is peeled from your skin so that your partner’s lips can caress the tenderized skin afterward.
Talk to each other and be open
Execution is mainly about agreement. It is essential to clarify in advance what new thing you will be trying and what will happen.
Agree on the rules together, set boundaries, and most importantly, agree on a safe word.
Then nothing bad can happen. Are you planning to try wax play? Then go for it.
