Some people like it hot. Others prefer it cold, and some like it rough. What do I mean by that? Not everyone craves gentle, almost conservative sex and making love with a partner. Some of you want sex to be more wild than just a room full of candles. Some of you want to be tied up to the bed and have to put up with whatever your partner comes up with.
Is it your dream to be helpless and bound?
It’s entirely up to you how you assess the situation and how you set the overall mood for the evening. You can prepare a bed full of sin with a red thorned rose on the pillow and handcuffs lying provocatively next to a blooming bud, symbolizing provocative chastity, or start with a glass of rosé wine and, accompanied by tender, loving kissing, move to the bed, which gives no hint of what awaits you tonight.
Bondage, although it may sound vulgar, is not a practice that cannot just as easily be romantic in its essence. Just don’t treat the person being tied up like a hunted animal, and if all touches are tender, then the sex as a whole won’t necessarily feel like a hotbed of sins.
Why are we so drawn to bondage and helplessness?
Everyone imagines something different under this term. Most often, it is just a game of dominance and immobilizing the other person. There is always one person on top who controls the other, who is practically helpless and cannot defend themselves because they are bound.
For some people, it is exciting to be the dominant one.
Some people like to be dominated. Everyone is different, and some even like to switch between these
“roles” depending on their mood or desire (such people are referred to as switches). After all, it’s still a game of trust in the other person. So never try bondage with a stranger. It’s also important to always decide in advance with your partner on the boundaries you cannot cross and choose a signal to stop everything.
Even without sight, you can enjoy sexual play
If you really want to surprise your partner, it’s a good idea to start with a silk blindfold. At this moment, deprived of the basic sense through which we usually receive the most external stimuli, your partner will become explosively sensitive to all your touches.
As soon as one sense is restricted, the others become heightened, and therefore everything you do will usually feel cosmically intense.
The moment you have this heated body solely in your power, the restraints will be nothing more than the icing on the cake, the final pillar that must be fulfilled for complete surrender.
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The experience will be all the more intense when he has a blindfold over his eyes, so he won’t be able to know what, when, or how it will happen.
Such a person loves the feeling of helplessness that comes from being tied up, even though some positions and restraints can be quite uncomfortable, but it satisfies them.
Everyone likes to play, and sex is nothing more than a game. Sometimes even a game of dominance and submission. Restraint (sometimes called bondage) is condemned as an immoral or unethical practice. But it’s just a matter of perspective—we here at the editorial office, for example, have absolutely nothing against anyone’s voluntary restraint 🙂
Overall, erotic bondage falls under the category of sexuality known as B-D-S-M:
- B,D – bondage and discipline;
- D,S – dominance and submission;
- S,M – sadism and masochism.
These activities often include penis and testicle binding — for this, we’ve prepared a detailed guide together with a few representatives of the gay community (they know best how to tie things up).
What should you actually use to tie up women / men?
You can tie up using:
Where can I buy these?
Safety First
You must always be careful not to cause physical injury to your “victim” (who, of course, must consent to being tied up during bedroom play). By this I mean you shouldn’t, for example, constrict an artery or heaven forbid choke them, thereby preventing breathing.
During bondage, minor injuries such as abrasions may also occur at the points of restraint, so be careful when choosing what to tie your partner with.
We’ll teach you erotic bondage / tying
We have prepared a multi-part guide on How to Do BONDAGE — in it, we’ll cover everything from the basics, choosing ropes and cords, to tying wrists and ankles, interesting ties like the armbind, breast binding, and we’ll even touch on aesthetic bondage with diamond/turtle and spiderweb-style ties.
A real-life bondage story
I remember that my friend Míša used to date a guy, I think his name was Libor, who specifically sought this out, and given the fact that otherwise couldn’t reach satisfaction, this practice was a very common way to spice up their sex life.
I have to say that both Míša and her ex were dominant, which didn’t exactly help the development of this relationship. In dominance and submission relationships, it is usually detrimental when both partners have the same orientation—that is, when there are two dominant or, conversely, two submissive individuals. Both of them want to be the dominant/submissive one, and occasionally stepping into the opposite role triggers a great wave of resentment, self-persuasion, and ultimately a feeling of dissatisfaction.
It must be added that the equipment for these games was truly extensive, ranging from various types of handcuffs, through ropes of different widths, to special restraint belts, straitjackets, and harnesses. Everything was meticulously planned and thought out. Libor put a lot of effort into acquiring the equipment; in this regard, he was truly conscientious and left nothing to chance—he certainly wouldn’t have allowed any parts to be incomplete; that was absolutely out of the question.
But one day, Míša’s patience ran out. She usually enjoyed the games, as they were imaginative, but there was no room for discussion about switching roles, and so she began to feel dissatisfied—in an otherwise laid-back relationship. She talked to her partner about it, but he wasn’t too keen on making any changes and, overall, he didn’t really care. Personally, he would have preferred a more submissive and pliable girlfriend, so ending the relationship didn’t hurt him at all—quite the opposite. Today, Míša has been with Ondra for five years, and now, for a change, she’s the one tying him up. He likes it, she does too, and they’re both happy. And that’s how it should be…
What experiences do our readers have with bondage?
How do you enjoy erotic bondage with your partner?
Are you secretly tempted by it? Are you too shy to admit it, or have you already done it? How do you feel about having your movement restricted and surrendering yourself to your partner? Do you trust them completely?
Write to us about your experiences, completely anonymously, of course, so you can help others find the courage to enjoy their secret sexual desires more.
Your opinions 9 opinions
Když se bude chtít svazováná vyvléknout mám ji svázat víc nebo to nechat?
To už záleží na vaší “hře” – chce laškovně utéci, abyste ji musel za “trest” více svázat a potrestat, nebo se jí už hrátky nelíbí?
Myslím že chce spíš laškovně utéct.
Tak to ji klidně svázejte ještě víc a dejte jí pak zabrat při dráždění a případném dráždění za její drzost 😉 Třeba chce přitvrdit a tímhle si to chce více ztížit
Na to je ideální si předem domluvit nějaké bezpečnostní slovíčko – když už vyloženě nechce pokračovat, tak i do toho tlačit není ideální (tedy pokud ji nechcete svazovat naposledy). Taky dost záleží na intenzitě svázání/bezmoci a vašeho zacházení s ní – výprask, hračky, zásuny, … Tohle je už dost o citu a vašemu porozumění.
Pokud máte vyloženě pevně rozložené pozice – vy Pán, ona subina, tak slabost byste neměl ukázat, prospěje to “hře”, ale má to své limity a na to je safeword ideální.
A když už se jí to pak nelíbí? Přeci nemůžu ukázat svojí slabost a pustit ji. ..?
Hezký den,
ohledně bondage/svazování máme na lascivku poměrně dost zdrojů i foto-návodů na jednotlivé úvazy.
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Jednoduše můžete začít s nultým dílem svazování (s fotkami a videem): https://www.lascero.com/navody/bondage-serial-zakladni-uzly-a-bezpecnost/
Snad jsem vám pomohl s inspirací – pokud máte jakýkoliv dotaz, tak klidně znovu napište.
Hezký den,
partnerka chce zkusit tuto praktiku tak hledám inspiraci – co byste poradili?
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mam doma subinku co potřebuje potrestat mel bych zájem o pasku na svazováni, kolik stojí?
Hezký den, ano máte pravdu – návody na podvazování penisu nám chybělo – chceli jsme ho zpracovat, ale ted doháníme resty v podobě asi 14 recenzí hraček.
Návod na svázání/podvázání muže máte nově zde: https://www.lascero.com/navody/jak-spravne-podvazat-varlata-a-penis-navod-i/ – má 4 díly, první dva jsou teoretické, zbylé 2 čistá praxe “jak na to”.
Když mi necháte e-mail, klidně vám napíšu až bude venku – jinak klasické úvazy se v menších obměnách dají využít i pro submisivní pány.
Dobrý den, mockrát děkuji za vaše návody! S partnerem si zkoušíme okořenit sex. Návody na svazování partnerek jsou téměř všude. Ovšem nikde nemohu najít jak svázat partnera!?! Tedy hlavně jeho penis – podvázání apod.
Pod předešlý komentář se můžu podepsat snad i vlastní krví, protože sama bych to napsala stejně. Svazování patří mezi hrátky, které praktikujeme čas od času a nemůžeme si ani jeden ty chvíle submisivity/dominance vynachválit.
Nemám zkušenosti s úplným svázáním do kozelců a podobných nepohodlných poloh, ale určité znehybnění není na škodu. Stačí pár šátků, či pouta a hned je sex jinačí. Ale rozhdodně to s partnerem bereme jako specialitku, kterou neprovádíme neustále, ale spíše podle chuti nás obou.