Two little words meaning “before” and “after.” Foreplay before the actual sexual act and afterplay afterward. What kind of foreplay is best, and is it even necessary? And afterplay? Isn’t that just a useless, meaningless word?
Love foreplay—how to do it?
We could start by saying that both these two practices, whether one or the other, add intimacy to a relationship and to eroticism. Just thrusting in and out probably won’t entertain anyone indefinitely, even though quickies aren’t bad at all—not by a long shot… But having them every day gets old, and then sex becomes boring and routine.
How do you maintain quality sex over the long term in a long-term relationship? The question isn’t simple, and neither is the answer. It certainly requires a lot of exploration and experimentation with new practices or sex toys, new ideas and innovations, fulfilling your partner’s wishes and desires, and occasionally meeting each other halfway.
You don’t have to feel like it every day, every hour. It’s more than enough if you prioritize quality over quantity. Personally, I’d prefer a luxurious, sensual night of lovemaking once a week over a few-minute quickie every day. But everyone is different. A million people, a million tastes…
How to get in the mood and heat things up
Foreplay is especially welcome for women. It gets us in the mood, arouses us, and then anything is possible. But it shouldn’t be too long, either—that just gets boring (yes, it’s hard to figure us women out). Two hours of oral stimulation isn’t necessary, but a little bit of that kind of teasing is nice.
Just turn off the TV and let your imagination run wild. And do what feels good for both of you. Foreplay is certainly pleasant, but it’s also important in a certain way. During foreplay, “arousal” for sex occurs, the right hormones are released, and this leads to increased blood flow to the pelvic area and lubrication of the vaginal opening. Then we know that without any preparation on command it just doesn’t work.
A few tips to spice up your foreplay:
An idea for dessert (preferably after a romantic dinner): decorate your partner with treats and then nibble them off (or you can feed each other). Another tip: on a sunny day, go out on a trip in the nude—you’ll see that this little adventure is definitely worth it!
Try, for example, solo foreplay, which involves each partner being in a different room. It’s entirely up to you how you play with yourselves, but at a certain moment—or at a time agreed upon in advance—one of you will head into your partner’s eager embrace, and then all you have to do is put that built-up sexual energy to good use.
Bondage is something that far too many couples look down upon. It’s entirely up to you whether you approach it as a tender affair or a sinful night filled with dominance. But when one partner is at the mercy of the other’s desire, new and unexplored aspects of your arousal will certainly emerge.
And even an erotic dream can become a reality in your love nest. The one of you who is more eloquent will share their vision of ideal lovemaking with their partner, leaving out no vivid details, and the moment the story ends, the real adventure is just beginning. The one who has been listening intently the whole time will now carry out everything that has stuck in their memory, exactly in the order in which it was described. The result will surely surprise you.
One way to spice up or make foreplay more exciting is role-playing. A little theatrical performance designed to entice, relax, and gently arouse. A classic example would be playing nurse and patient, or nurse and doctor.
A damsel in distress and a heroic rescuer. Why not let a woman play the role of a princess, to be rescued by a prince on a white horse? Or even better, raped by an evil pirate?
You can even get in the mood with toys..
Even handcuffs or whips aren’t a bad idea. Everyone associates these toys with BDSM practices, but that isn’t always the case. Handcuffing and blindfolding can make for great foreplay. Instead of torture, your partner can be treated to an incredibly pleasant massage.
Or tease your partner with a toy. Even a vibrator can be a great massage aid. You can use the vibrations to gently stimulate your partner’s erogenous zones and massage them; for your partner, with heightened senses, this can become a source of great stimulation.
Start with gentle vibrations on the nape of the neck and cervical spine, then move on to the nipples. Vibrations can work absolute wonders on the nipples. The lower abdomen above the pubic area is a great spot for vibrations or just light touches, where your partner will expect more while being merely massaged.
Don’t let them cool down—enjoy the afterplay
As for afterplay, cuddling, talking, and hugging can also be pleasurable after a satisfying climax. It will certainly please your partner more than you just rolling over and snoring. Those few minutes are worth the effort, and the effect is incredible.
If you care about your partner, it would definitely be a good idea to nurture your relationship and devote enough time and enthusiasm to it trying new and unknown things.
Of course, if you’re not in the mood for once, there’s no need to force yourself. A reasonable partner will understand and wait until you’re ready again. The main thing is to trust each other and try both the tried-and-true and the unknown. A tiny pinch of new spice can really spice up sex!
Don’t skip foreplay. Just because you don’t like sweet cuddling doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy it in other ways. Just let your imagination run wild and off to bed!
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Spousta mých známých považuje za ideální předehru přepadení patrnerem, pokousání a poměrně násilné svázání.
Takže fantazii se asi opravdu meze nekladou.
Děkujeme za rozšíření nápadů, leč dost agresivních a extrémní 🙂 ale každý jsme originálem, takže proč ne.
Muži si vždy tropí vtipy na předehru, přitom když jí nemají, tak se cítí nemilováni. Všichni mí partneři si ztěžovali, že chci jen sex a ani se nepomazlím. Pak nastaly takové ty řeči, že je ani nemám ráda… Takže holky jestli chcete, aby se vám muž věnoval a trochu si svámi před tím pohrál, tak ho týden v kuse nenechte napokoji. Dejte mu minimálně 3x denně a bez nějakého otálení, pak bude žebrat o trochu toho klidu a jen mazlebí u televize…
Hezký den,
děkujeme za váš tip… inspirace jsou vždy vítané 🙂
Čo je najlepšie na zaviazanie oči? Máte neco odskusane? Nedá sa cez to podvádzať?
Hezký den – šátek/šála – my máme ověřenou třeba od LELO: je dražší (spíše luxusní), ale skvělá: https://www.lascero.com/eroticke-hracky-pomucky/kdyz-uz-jsme-u-toho-svazovani/.
Ne – má dobré vykrojení a jak je to hedvábí jemné, tak se přitiksne na obličej – ano – ten článek co jsem vám posílal je naše recenze s našimi fotkami a videi.
Jako nejlepší partnerskou hračku bych vám doporučil řadu We-Vibe. Pro využití při partnerském sexu při zavedené hračky jsou nejlepší klasické WeViby ve tvaru písmene U – tedy hned první recenze v odkazu co jsem vám posílal.
Má dálkové ovládání, netlačí v klíně ani jednoho z partnerů – můžete ho využívat i při zavedení penisu do partnerky – to je jeho velká síla. A jak je blízko klitorisu i penisu, tak oboum pěkně pomhá s orgasmem:))
Vydrží vibrovat ca 3 hodiny se silnějšími vibracemi – čím slabší vibrace, tím déle, ale o moc déle to nebude – i tak je to myslím dostačující čas na jakékoliv hrátky:)
Od slečen jsem se nedočkal ještě žádné negativní reakce – líbí se jim jemný tvar a také sametový povrch, krásně se hladí:)) beru to jako trefu do černého.
Na konci recenze jsou prokliky na shopy, které máme vyzkoušené, takže tam si můžete v klidu vybrat – jak dle cen, tak poštovného či platebních metod.
dobre rano potřebuji neco jak pro muže tak ženu abychom si mohli u toho užívat společne a taky se společbě udělat.