Standing sex is really appealing. However, many people are afraid of it and think it’s too complicated. You don’t need to look for a bed, chair or table—you can take your partner whenever you want. Even though standing sex isn’t very comfortable, it’s definitely worth a try.
How to enjoy standing sex?
In theory, there’s nothing complicated about the standing position, but in practice, it’s a bit more complicated. The basic position is one where the man stands upright, the woman wraps her legs around his hips, jumps onto him with his help, and the man inserts his penis. During sex, the man holds the woman by her buttocks or hips. In this basic position, it is possible to have sex in four different variations.
- Variation one: the woman leans her back against the wall, and the man can gently hold her by the buttocks.
- Variation two: the woman stands with her back to her partner; she can remain standing upright or lean forward. In both cases, sex then takes place from behind.
- Variation three: sex takes place from the front, with the man holding the woman in the air using his hands and the woman holding onto the man with her hands and legs.
- Option four: the woman stands facing her partner, wraps one leg around his hips, and keeps the other leg on the ground (this leg serves as a support). The man can hold the woman gently by her buttocks.
Another use of standing sex is also in BDSM practices on the man’s part. The man takes a dominant position and thus has full control over his partner.
Comfort or not?
At first glance, standing sex doesn’t seem like a very comfortable affair. A certain amount of discomfort is, however, exactly what brings excitement and a new spark to sex. The position can be with support or without support. When choosing standing sex with support, one partner leans against a solid object, such as a railing or a wall.
The support provides a certain passive role. The other partner is the more active one, who takes the initiative and controls the pace and intensity of the act.
By switching positions, partners can experiment with dominant and submissive roles.
This allows them to determine which position is more comfortable for them. They can then use and incorporate this insight into future intimate encounters.
The foundation is support
In the variation of sex without support, one partner becomes the support for the other and vice versa. This is therefore sex where cooperation is the main prerequisite. Both partners must be aware of the other’s stability and state of mind and respond to changes. If they did not cooperate, they would not be able to maintain the position. The second method is therefore not about dominance, but about sharing and harmony.
Various studies also show that a very small percentage of women can reach orgasm during standing sex. Research indicates that to reach orgasm, women need to relax and loosen the muscles in their legs, which is nearly impossible during standing sex.
Even for petite women, standing sex isn’t impossible. It’s more than enough for the woman’s partner to bend his knees slightly, so that the partners are at the same height. This position may not be entirely comfortable for the man, but what wouldn’t you gentlemen do for your partners, right? This way, the man will properly stimulate the woman’s vagina at the right angle. The penis will also penetrate deeper this way, reducing the chance of it slipping out of the vagina.
How is the standing position better than others?
Personally, I consider standing sex to be passionate and wild. It’s also one of the quickest ways to satisfy a sudden urge for sex. You can have standing sex almost anywhere; you don’t need any special place or props. I consider the very intense stimulation of the clitoris to be a major advantage of standing sex.
Pros of standing sex
It feels very good when a woman gently rubs against her partner’s pubic bone. A woman will also experience pleasure when she gently contracts her vaginal muscles or moves her pelvis slightly. Another thing I like about standing sex is when I can lean my back against a cool surface (such as a wall, window, mirror, cold bathroom tiles, etc.).
Cons of standing sex
Of course, standing sex has its downsides too. It is certainly more physically demanding for both partners, and for petite women, the technique itself can be more challenging. Another downside is that coordination between both partners is crucial, and if the woman decides to wrap both legs around her partner, mutual trust is also essential (e.g., so the man doesn’t drop her).
What do I love most about it?
I consider the main pros to be the very intense stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot, the fact that sex can be had practically anywhere, the closeness and intense passion between partners.
Personally, I really enjoy standing sex; I prefer to lean my back against the wall, wrap my legs around my boyfriend’s hips, and let him lead me. The intensity and depth are entirely up to him. However, I can gently rock my pelvis and grind against his pubic bone, and research or no research, reaching orgasm isn’t difficult at all 😉
