When Terika and I met through our Sex Advice Column, she revealed that she loves BDSM play, especially from a dominant, sadistic role. That didn’t leave us indifferent, so this interview will focus mainly on this aspect of sexual experiences…
An open interview with our new dominant editor/tester Terika
How did you get into BDSM? When did you realize it appealed to you, turned you on?
To be honest, through the movie 50 Shades of Grey. I liked the BDSM setting and the practices in it. I told myself I’d like to try it too. That it might not be so bad. It appealed to me, and I started getting interested in BDSM. Although looking back now, the movie seems pretty weak in terms of BDSM.
Since you’re so open about sexuality, I’ll ask—do you have any experience with a girl?
Yes, I do. I’m bisexual.
How does your partner feel about your interest in BDSM?
My current partner takes it positively, since he’s interested in it too. This is one of the many reasons I’m happy with our relationship—that I’ve found someone I completely understand. We have both a “traditional” and a BDSM relationship, and so far, that suits me perfectly.
Do you and your partner have any favorite practices? Or, conversely, any disliked ones that you use as punishment for your partner?
Yes, we do. Foot fetish, facesitting, ballbusting. And his punishment is spanking and anal.
Is there something you haven’t tried yet, but are tempted by?
Personally, I’d be tempted by piss. Various roleplay, feminization.
Do you have any fetishes? Something you get off on?
Foot fetish. I’ll admit that at first it seemed strange and disgusting to me, but over time and thanks to my partner, I’ve come to enjoy it, and now I can’t even imagine being without it.
How is your relationship with your sub partner?
We try to keep BDSM and our “traditional” relationship separate. That works for me so far. But over time, I’d like him to be submissive to me even in our “traditional relationship.” But that’s still a long way off. Still, I’d like to make that happen someday.
Have you ever tried the opposite role, where you were the sub?
No. I haven’t tried the submissive role. A little bit, yes, but not strictly in BDSM. More just for fun.
Have you looked for other slaves, or are you content with just your own?
My slave is also my boyfriend. So it’s completely unthinkable for me to look for other slaves.
Do your sub/dom play activities spill over into your regular relationship (as seen by your friends/family)?
You could say they don’t. A few friends know about it. And they understand that everyone likes different things, but we don’t discuss this topic at all. And then there are friends who also practice BDSM, but that’s only a very small group… It’s nice to talk about it with them. As for family, they don’t know. I don’t know how they’d react if they found out.
Have you considered a bondage contract?
My boyfriend and I have talked about it. Some of those contracts seem way too extreme to me. I don’t want a slave/boyfriend who’s literally a doormat. So for now, I don’t plan on having a bondage contract
Do you plan on restricting your sub’s sex life, for example with a chastity belt? If so, for how long?
Yeah, we have a chastity belt. And for now, I’m planning on a week or so, maybe more later. And as for sex, I’d like him to be my sex toy.
What is the most common offense your slave commits that warrants punishment?
All sorts of things—mostly for disobedience.
What about you and bondage?
We practice bondage. It’s a great way during torture sessions 🙂 so he can’t even move.
Where do you get inspiration for your BDSM “play”? Fantasy, short stories, porn videos, any specific sources?
Basically short stories; sometimes I add my own ideas… or tweak them, or they’re just the starting point for a new idea, and then porn.
Would you invite someone else into your relationship/sex life? Another dom/sub?
Yes. A dominant woman. Preferably a bisexual. But we haven’t found the right one yet. Either it was a fake or they weren’t serious. So we’ll see.
Do you have any experience with erotic events? Swingers? Festivals?
No. I haven’t been to any such event yet. But I’d definitely like to attend one in the future.
How can you help us with our erotic websites/portals?
Well, to start with, erotic stories, toy reviews, and eventually guides on training and slave punishment.
Thanks for your answers, Terika—now we can only wish you the best and hope you fit right in with our editorial team 🙂 Petr
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Dobrý den,
Zaujal mne článek můj otrok je i můj přítel.
Rád bych i poznal Teriku která má zde hlavní roli.
Jsem submisivni muž a mám rád sm. Mám i zkušenosti ale pouze jednorázové lekce. Spíše by mi vyhovoval podobný vztah jako má Terika. “Tedy moje přítelkyně je i moje domina.” Bohuzel není snadné takový vztah realizovat. Domin v čechách je hodně ale dělají to pro peníze. Já toužím po skutečném Ds vztahu.
Hezký den,
bohužel Terika už není aktivní členkou naší redakce a ani si nepřála být kontaktována. Vaši situaci chápu, ale bohužel je to o titěrném hledání spřízněné duše, které bude vyhovovat vaše permanentní submisivita. Návod na to bohužel nemáme, jedině hledat na podobně laděných seznamkách či na tematických bdsm akcích. Popřípadě v každém z nás je trochu submisivity, dominance, … jen najít tu ideální, ve které to více probudit.